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Last night while driving my oldest daughter to the airport my 9 year old daughter Rel started a discussion on the differences between two very popular spiritual movies, The Secret and The Peaceful Warrior.

She brought the discussion up because I was feeling forlorn over my oldest leaving us for two years. Sure she'll be back but still there'll be very long absences. Now this step in her life is a very important step and it has to be taken for her to grow as a person. But, mommy, being very protective worries over how she'll get to school, to work, how she'll pay her bills, will she like her new job after she gets one and on and on. So to make myself feel better I tried to explain, to myself, by talking to the children, about "the journey" and enjoying "the journey" as Socrates in the Peaceful Warrior taught Dan Millman who went on to become an outstanding athlete and author of the spiritual book "The Peaceful Warrior" put it. In this case the journey that my daughter will take to get her degree. I also brought up some points I learned from the movie by Rhonda Byrne, "The Secret." We watch both movies over and over.

The graph above shows how all spiritual teachings overlap one another and at the very center, where they all meet or where they have a common thread.

This is what Rel had to say, "but mommy, The Peaceful Warrior and The Secret are different. How can you use both of the movies to make you feel better? You can only use one or the other. The Peaceful Warrior tells you to stay in the now and The Secret tells you to look to the future. You can't do both mommy!" Ok, now I have a job on my hands! How do I explain such deep meaning movies to my 9 year old child...hmmm...think...think!

Ok here is what I told her but before I go on The Peaceful Warrior is now TPW and The Secret is now TS for the purpose of this post only. And also keep in mind that this is the way I see it and I don't speak for the general public, only for me because it works for me.

When watching TS the main point that came across to me was to try to fit some happy thoughts into my mind once in awhile or most of the time. Most of my time I really focus on things that stress me out especially where money is concerned. I started to think about things that made me happy. I could hardly remember any happy childhood stuff until I went on a trip to Oahu with my siblings. Riding along in a car together we spent most of our time laughing, teasing, and joking with each other. It was so much fun! From there I was able to start remembering a whole lot of stuff we used to do together as children that brought back such delightful memories. I started to think of my children all the time, seeing their smiling faces and especially hearing their voices telling me how much they loved me. I started to think about the beach and all the fun times we have at the beach together.

Another thing that TS suggests is to recite in your head all the things to be grateful for. I do that religiously! From the time I get up, throughout the day, and until I fall asleep. Sometimes I'll be driving and I'll look to the beautiful mauka side of the islands and am just in amazement at its majestic...ness! I'll recite in my mind how thankful I am to be able to witness its majestic...ness.

Now, did my money problems all of a sudden disappear? No, of course not. But I'm happier now, happier than I've been in a long time. And, I'm not getting sick like I used to. My health isn't 100% good, I still get sick but not nearly as much as before. My head is clear most of the time, I'm more organized (to a really organized person I'm still disorganized), and I'm just plain old happier.

TPW.

..wow! What a GREAT book and a GREAT movie! And with Nick Nolte, whew, I'll always think Socrates is Nick Nolte now! I absolutely adore Nick Nolte! I read TPW about 15 years ago when I was still on Guam. I remember reading it to my college girl when she was little and playing soccer. I believe it helped her because she went on to become a very adept soccer player and was voted as an all-star island player by the coaches. She was the youngest player ever selected at that time. She was an all around player too but her favorite position was defense and goalie.

The message that TPW gave me was powerful...stay in the now. At that time I was always remembering my past and it was affecting how I performed in my now. Another deep message for me was "take the trash out!" I would start to imagine a garden (I didn't make this up someone else did) filled up with weeds and growing over all my pretty flowers. I saw myself pulling out the weeds that represented thoughts that weren't helping me and making way for my pretty flowers to grow.

It's taken years but with the help of all the other spiritual books I've read and all the other spiritual movies I've seen I've come a long way. Even now I continue to grow. Why just this morning I had a blow out with my youngest son and didn't act in accordance with what TPW and TS so painstakingly try to teach me! But I know enough now to bounce back, take the trash out, fill my mind with some thoughts that make me happy and go from there.

My point is this, the two movies have a meeting point. They meet in the mind where they're telling me to take out the thoughts from my mind that are causing havoc in my life. They tell me the same thing in different ways and that's what I love about all the different authors of spiritual books. The more they tell the same story in different ways the more people they can reach with their message that really does seek to help a person live a happier life. I see such earnestness in all of the teachers, Dan Millman, Bob Proctor, Dr. John DeMartini, John Assaraf. Yes, there's money involved if you want some of their teachings but they also give out a heck of a lot of free stuff too!

If we look at it as one or the other than it becomes like religion. You know, all religions have a meeting point where they agree. Yet, they tend to focus on the differences they have. Then their followers split up and it's not a happy scene in a lot of places.

That's how I explained it to my 9, 12, and 20 year old children. I hope they always see the beauty in what these spiritual teachers are teaching us.

Lisa Nichols on Maui

Lisa Nichols lending me her beautiful and bright smile for picture taking! I wanted to stay and take a picture with her but my children were calling me like crazy so I had to buzz.

Hmmm, let's see, how can I give these out to people for free? She did too...it was wonderful!

Talk about motivation and inspiration! I was really motivated to see Lisa Nichols at The Maui Beach Hotel last night. I'd heard about it in the morning and borrowed $25.00 from my daughter to go see her.

She told us stories of her childhood growing up and some of the challenges she had to overcome. The audience that could relate to what she was saying would raise one or two hands up or stand with two hands raised depending on the intensity of the relationship to what she was saying. There was a wave of hands raised to be sure.

Wise in her young life, Lisa is a dynamic speaker with true life stories to back up her teachings. She's down to earth and offers guidance in a not so conforming manner but nonetheless effective in its own right.

Her motto seemed to be to make us become "significantly uncomfortable" because if we want to get ahead we have to do some things that are significantly uncomfortable. Exercises were done to make us kind of squirm but we did it anyway because most of us there wanted to glean from her what she had to learn on her own "in the dark of the night" where she did all her searching for answers.

Part of that was to stop the "chatter" in her head that many of us know we have too. Some are unconscious so that we aren't even aware that our "chatter" is telling us we are not capable or whatever but the limiting belief has a total negative effect on the positive that we are working on accomplishing in our life.

The one saying she gave us, and this came from her grandmother was, Winners never quit! Quitters never win!

She's also going to be at the Unity Church on Sunday so I hope to make it. Afterwards she's conducting an all day workshop from 1pm - 7pm which I cannot attend. That's beach day with my children!

Attending this talk is phenomenal in helping me to...

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Sophia Loren Quote

To me Sophia Loren is like the most Beautiful Woman in the world. I've named my oldest daughter Sophia after Sophia Loren. Just read the quote that follows from her:

When you are a mother, you are never really alone in your thoughts. A mother always has to think twice, once for herself and once for her child.

Sophia Loren

How true that is and how motivating for me, a WAHM, to hear that. To hear from someone famous like her that my decisions are not only based on my wants and needs but also my children's. When I decided to pursue and never give up finding a home based business it was always with the thought that I wanted to be able to be home with my children. It's hard as a single parent and even in a 2 parent household to have one of the parents home to care for the child. The way prices are going up but salaries still being mediocre even in a 2 parent household they both have to work to make ends meet. I hear it all the time. So it must be more so for a single parent. This mother, this WAHM thought twice about the path she is taking, once for myself, the thought of being home with my children, and once for my children, to have a mother to be there when they need her.

Every family will be different but that is what I want for my family and when discussing it with my children it's also what they want. Just hearing someone I admire say what rings through my mind is something that helps me to...

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Quote by Meryl Streep

Every single decision I make about what material I do, what I'm putting out in the world, is because of my children.

Meryl Streep

It's so refreshing and motivating to me to read quotes from some of the greatest actors in the world. To know that they are famous and seemingly untouchable but yet they have the same concerns for their children as any other mom does. Is she a WAHM, no, she's not. She does not work at home...but...she makes so much money in a few months of the year making a movie, enough to tide her over for years I would think. I could be wrong. The point is that she gets to spend a lot of time with her children which is what a lot of us WAHMs aspire to do. Since we can't be famous actors, well I'll speak for myself, we can at least build a business at home that allows us to spend time with our children and raise them as we see fit. Every single decision she makes is centered around her children, not unlike a WAHM who will carefully shop for the perfect home based business, something that matches her passion, her pocketbook, and her belief. There'll be more quotes from this wonderful mom! She's humorous and down to earth with a very no nonsense attitude. I got motivated from reading her quote. I read motivational quotes as just another way to...

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WAHMs Motivated Forever!: Homeschool WAHM

WAHMs Motivated Forever!: Homeschool WAHM

Homeschool WAHM

One of the things that motivates me the most to build a home based business is my children. Two of my children are in elementary and middle school. They both want to be homeschooled and I want to homeschool them so it works out perfectly.

I started a blog to log what we are doing with our homeschooling and what progress we make. This is not only for me but for the school when I need to submit their progress.

Here's the link:
http://homeschoolwahm.blogspot.com
There I'll also start to list resources for homeschoolers as I come upon the ones I like.
Just another reason for this WAHM to...

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